I’m fascinated by the telepathy and the known facts. Laura Lynn Jackson was talking about it in an online session she did and she mentioned the telepathy tapes too which a friend listened to and was telling me about. Tyler—you wear masks to cover up your internal superhero! Would love to hear more about your superpowers. You’re incredible!
All of YOU are to me. I cannot express what it means that some of you upgrade subscriptions to tell me that what I make is worth it, that it's worth showing me with your hard earned money. It keeps me able to do this. Truly.
So honored by the openness in this post. It's not clear yet whether I'm autistic or AuAdhd or just a people pleaser but I encourage you (as my therapist has encouraged me) to focus on the small things that are depleting your spoons. It is so hard to do what is best for ourselves when it might let down the ones we love. I've found it has been easier to focus on the smaller things that impact others less and help me suffer less so I can show up better in those difficult times.
Things I've changed (as examples of "small", not suggestions for you):
-soft pants only
-always carry high-fidelity earplugs (so you can still converse easily) and PUT THEM IN the moment life is the tiniest bit too loud
I LOVE these rules :) Sarah would absolutely love the Soft Pants only rule ;) Weirdly, I HATE SOFT pants. I don't even wear them when sick, when tired, when watching movies, ever. :) Weird, right?
This one gonna be reread through the heart, for the mind, and the soul. Phew. I wish I could collapse your migraines into mine, no one should ever have to endure such pain, but if anyone does, seems like we should be able to choose to take them away from others and serve a purpose. The guilt of suffering is by far the worst part. Who we are failing when trapped in the dark.
Ooof. Thank you for sharing this. For allowing us into your world, your diverse and fascinating mind. I hope you took a good rest after writing this ❤️
"I wrote to live somewhere without rules, to disobey quietly, as I could not understand the why to all the because I was being fed by those in positions of any power." This. I feel this so dang deep in my bones, in my soul and haven't been able to put it in words. Thank you for sharing and for showing up as you. Let's all take a nap together.
Labels are like masks. They box you in and if "if good fences, make good neighbors?" What and whom are we keeping out OR is it in? My superpower is empathy. My label? "high functioning..." you name it (lupus, depression, anxiety. High functioning just means I compartmentalize and hide. Taking care of ME, must happen. I must find my joy or I will be lost.
TKG...YOU help me reach into that space where I am not anything but me. Thank you for this amazing place you created.
Katy, wow. Thank you, seriously thank you so much. I work my ass off making this place something magic, and to hear that it IS, and that it draws in people like YOU is unbelievable. You're perfect, just as you are.
My brother has autism. Born in 1956 and displaying signs right from his first wail ... he never knew about masking. It was not until his 30s that he began teaching college. When knowing when he was losing the class became utterly important. He became further aware of his [accurately own} diagnosis when he, in turn, had a son who also showed the signs very early. Who loved being swaddled [still does] and needed so much extra help in school. Something my brother never had, even though we lived near Dartmouth College and knew people who knew things but my parents were never brave enough [?] to face. [Fearing he would be placed in a 'special' class that would grossly lack with his IQ]
I know your story for other reasons. I too mask. I pretend to be in a play ... being a character who knows how to Be. I always did it out of tremendous anxiety, but my other brother, who became a high school counsellor for the neurodivergent, always maintained we were all on the spectrum with me being able to organize [a superpower of mine] things/life around it.
You are oh-so brilliant, in intellect and spirit. I wish that you didn't feel the need to mask and that the rest of us would understand the complexities and let it be.
I wish you ALL the best. We've got your back. OOdles of love. G
I wish YOU all the best back, and this means so much, hearing bits of YOUR story. Honestly, the "masking" I do, is mostly to avoid the annoyance of dealing with people who don't understand haha. It ends up saving me energy, weirdly, most of the time. :)
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I feel grateful to have this window into your inner landscape. I am very touched by your energy and presence in this world. Your gifts are unmatched! 💖
I’m fascinated by the telepathy and the known facts. Laura Lynn Jackson was talking about it in an online session she did and she mentioned the telepathy tapes too which a friend listened to and was telling me about. Tyler—you wear masks to cover up your internal superhero! Would love to hear more about your superpowers. You’re incredible!
Sometimes they feel like superpowers, sometimes they feel like concrete boots haha.
I’m sorry. I can’t imagine but I know what an honor it is to know you through your words and you’re a superhero to me.
All of YOU are to me. I cannot express what it means that some of you upgrade subscriptions to tell me that what I make is worth it, that it's worth showing me with your hard earned money. It keeps me able to do this. Truly.
❤️
:) I love ya.
*hugs*
Right back atcha. Always.
I am so thankful for you and your you-ness 🧡💜
That means the mostest ever.
So honored by the openness in this post. It's not clear yet whether I'm autistic or AuAdhd or just a people pleaser but I encourage you (as my therapist has encouraged me) to focus on the small things that are depleting your spoons. It is so hard to do what is best for ourselves when it might let down the ones we love. I've found it has been easier to focus on the smaller things that impact others less and help me suffer less so I can show up better in those difficult times.
Things I've changed (as examples of "small", not suggestions for you):
-soft pants only
-always carry high-fidelity earplugs (so you can still converse easily) and PUT THEM IN the moment life is the tiniest bit too loud
-always wear shoes I could walk 4 miles in
-always have a safe snack on me
Here's to continuing to prioritize your needs!
I LOVE these rules :) Sarah would absolutely love the Soft Pants only rule ;) Weirdly, I HATE SOFT pants. I don't even wear them when sick, when tired, when watching movies, ever. :) Weird, right?
This one gonna be reread through the heart, for the mind, and the soul. Phew. I wish I could collapse your migraines into mine, no one should ever have to endure such pain, but if anyone does, seems like we should be able to choose to take them away from others and serve a purpose. The guilt of suffering is by far the worst part. Who we are failing when trapped in the dark.
I'd never allow my migraines to go to you :) Not ever. I'll endure so you don't have to even more.
Ooof. Thank you for sharing this. For allowing us into your world, your diverse and fascinating mind. I hope you took a good rest after writing this ❤️
THANK YOU for showing up, time and again, for making me feel home.
"I wrote to live somewhere without rules, to disobey quietly, as I could not understand the why to all the because I was being fed by those in positions of any power." This. I feel this so dang deep in my bones, in my soul and haven't been able to put it in words. Thank you for sharing and for showing up as you. Let's all take a nap together.
Goodness, thank you so much for giving me the space to do so. Means all things. NAP HERE WE COME!
Labels are like masks. They box you in and if "if good fences, make good neighbors?" What and whom are we keeping out OR is it in? My superpower is empathy. My label? "high functioning..." you name it (lupus, depression, anxiety. High functioning just means I compartmentalize and hide. Taking care of ME, must happen. I must find my joy or I will be lost.
TKG...YOU help me reach into that space where I am not anything but me. Thank you for this amazing place you created.
Katy, wow. Thank you, seriously thank you so much. I work my ass off making this place something magic, and to hear that it IS, and that it draws in people like YOU is unbelievable. You're perfect, just as you are.
Brave. Honest. Fascinating. You.
My brother has autism. Born in 1956 and displaying signs right from his first wail ... he never knew about masking. It was not until his 30s that he began teaching college. When knowing when he was losing the class became utterly important. He became further aware of his [accurately own} diagnosis when he, in turn, had a son who also showed the signs very early. Who loved being swaddled [still does] and needed so much extra help in school. Something my brother never had, even though we lived near Dartmouth College and knew people who knew things but my parents were never brave enough [?] to face. [Fearing he would be placed in a 'special' class that would grossly lack with his IQ]
I know your story for other reasons. I too mask. I pretend to be in a play ... being a character who knows how to Be. I always did it out of tremendous anxiety, but my other brother, who became a high school counsellor for the neurodivergent, always maintained we were all on the spectrum with me being able to organize [a superpower of mine] things/life around it.
You are oh-so brilliant, in intellect and spirit. I wish that you didn't feel the need to mask and that the rest of us would understand the complexities and let it be.
I wish you ALL the best. We've got your back. OOdles of love. G
I wish YOU all the best back, and this means so much, hearing bits of YOUR story. Honestly, the "masking" I do, is mostly to avoid the annoyance of dealing with people who don't understand haha. It ends up saving me energy, weirdly, most of the time. :)
well ... it's a boundary. We all need our boundaries <3
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I feel grateful to have this window into your inner landscape. I am very touched by your energy and presence in this world. Your gifts are unmatched! 💖
You are so so so very welcome!