I’ve started looking forward to these Sunday morning reads as a little ‘before I get up’ ritual, and I have to say, this is one of my favorites! From the photos to the haiku to the words you so passionately spilled for us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. What a wonderful thing to be reminded of!
I learned this the hard way recently. It took me a good long while before I said enough. And I am so glad I did. I'm in a much better place for it. I appreciate the words and reminder!
Dammit this is beautiful. A much needed deep dive into that silly saying. You are so right. I've always found it so strange when people just complain about their S.O. or toss around comments that are ignorant or ambivalent. Same goes for people who are always complaining about their kids. I mean, I can understand the urge - kids are challenging. And maybe I have no room to talk since I don't have kids yet. But I truly believe that if I am blessed with children, I will not be walking around complaining about them every day, no matter how challenging they are. I've also just never been one to air my dirty laundry, so to speak. Any frustrations or issues with my private life...get resolved at home. My partner and I have never spoken badly about each other publicly. We hold each other in high regard. We work through things together so there's never a need to carry negative feelings or complaints out into the world. Anyway, that's my little tangent for today. But yes, I agree wholeheartedly with your perspective on this.
This hits home. For too many years, I put up with a spouse who made those comments, took me for granted, and didn't understand that a relationship is a partnership. I truly believed that taking that crap was simply part of being married, because everyone kept saying marriage is hard - and I thought that's what "hard" meant. I have a friend who is in an unhappy marriage, "But it's not all bad, so I can't just walk away." Unhappy is unhappy. It isn't healthy to live like that, and it took me too long to learn it for myself. I'm not autistic, but I agree with you that those jokes aren't funny. When I hear someone make comments like that, it grates on me, because it reflects on how they really feel but they refuse to acknowledge or admit it. You are so right that loving someone means we give them our best, because they deserve it. Thank you.
I’ve started looking forward to these Sunday morning reads as a little ‘before I get up’ ritual, and I have to say, this is one of my favorites! From the photos to the haiku to the words you so passionately spilled for us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. What a wonderful thing to be reminded of!
I learned this the hard way recently. It took me a good long while before I said enough. And I am so glad I did. I'm in a much better place for it. I appreciate the words and reminder!
Yes. Absolutely yes to all of this.
Love is a privilege. That’s going to stick with me. This was wonderful!
Dammit this is beautiful. A much needed deep dive into that silly saying. You are so right. I've always found it so strange when people just complain about their S.O. or toss around comments that are ignorant or ambivalent. Same goes for people who are always complaining about their kids. I mean, I can understand the urge - kids are challenging. And maybe I have no room to talk since I don't have kids yet. But I truly believe that if I am blessed with children, I will not be walking around complaining about them every day, no matter how challenging they are. I've also just never been one to air my dirty laundry, so to speak. Any frustrations or issues with my private life...get resolved at home. My partner and I have never spoken badly about each other publicly. We hold each other in high regard. We work through things together so there's never a need to carry negative feelings or complaints out into the world. Anyway, that's my little tangent for today. But yes, I agree wholeheartedly with your perspective on this.
This hits home. For too many years, I put up with a spouse who made those comments, took me for granted, and didn't understand that a relationship is a partnership. I truly believed that taking that crap was simply part of being married, because everyone kept saying marriage is hard - and I thought that's what "hard" meant. I have a friend who is in an unhappy marriage, "But it's not all bad, so I can't just walk away." Unhappy is unhappy. It isn't healthy to live like that, and it took me too long to learn it for myself. I'm not autistic, but I agree with you that those jokes aren't funny. When I hear someone make comments like that, it grates on me, because it reflects on how they really feel but they refuse to acknowledge or admit it. You are so right that loving someone means we give them our best, because they deserve it. Thank you.
100% agree. The people we love, who love us, should be a safe warm place full of care and respect.