Tyler it is 828 in northern New York and I am astonished on how you touch my heart with every signal fire especially this one. I confess I have not listened to one in a while struggling to find peace in my sister's sudden death. My sister has always been far more timid and unadventurous than I so when she went on a cruise by herself it surprised everyone. First can I say I went on a cruise once and realized it is so far from who I am I could never do that again. Well, the story is she died suddenly by herself with no answers to any of us Holland America will not give us the medical records and the doctor would not sign the death certificate so we are in the process of an autopsy. I realize that it might of been her time and although she was very healthy anything could of happened. I am finding peace but what haunts me the most is the lack of empathy the cruise lines have shown and how big business as I have always known are heartless. Like you spoke about we all have or will suffer loss and I will not leave a legacy of bitterness but of love . I have never been one to reach out it seems I am better at listening to others but your words ,your honest raw words always help so very much.
Thank you sending love to anyone who is suffering.
Ah, Tyler - what a timely piece. Thank you. I’m a couple of days away from the anniversary of my father’s death. It’s been a tough year and your words were a powerful reminder that tragedy is inevitable and that grief and coping with grief are ongoing. And, for the record, your podcast (sure, call it that!) shot to the top of my list this morning. Keep up the good work :)
Thank you Tyler for offering up the words I needed to find and the words I needed to hear. Death has affected our family tremendously in the past two years. Both my sister and sister-in-law are having difficult times coping. They rely on me to listen and offer hope. With our latest death, the sudden loss of my 25 year nephew to suicide, I have been struggling. Due to circumstances surrounding his death there was no funeral, no viewing, no memorial. I have never needed these things in the past. For the first time in my life I am struggling to find a way to say goodbye. I am struggling to hold myself together while I offer my family hope. I am struggling with the concept that he chose to die alone, he was that in pain and that he couldn’t reach out. This wasn’t just a painful day for him. He was in so much pain he planned it. The realization kills me. I took care of him as a child when my sister was on bed rest with his sisters. He lived with me while he tried on big city life. How could I miss this? So this morning your message was a gift. Thank you. I will not become lost in bitterness, but rather continue to offer up hope to my family who desperately needs it at this time. Continue to focus on love. If you have any suggestions for ways to say goodbye I would greatly appreciate any ideas you could pass along. There is just something there I cannot lay down. I could use the help.
To anyone who is struggling I send my sincerest love. You are not alone.
Today must be the day for grief - I just woke up from a dream (and I almost never remember dreams) - crying because I dreamed of my grama. I don't remember what happened but I haven't seen my grams since she passed almost 10 years ago. And I had an idea for a book I'm planning to writing - also about grief. I think it must be a February thing. February and November are always the grief months for me for no reason in particular.
Prior to listening to your Sunday Edition (which I look forward to every weekend), I was in a virtual support group for family members of people with substance use disorder. And the topic was Grief! And then to listen to your post. This is so beautiful, thank you. I love your analogy of getting those handcuffs off and running down the street, checking on every street corner to be sure of escape! : ) I don't know how our culture became so grief averse (although I have some suspicions), but people like you are bringing us back around to the truth of it. To really live and love means to lose sometimes, and it hurts, and only we can decide how to keep showing up for life, for ourselves, for our community. But the more "out" we are about this, the more we are helping others to find their way too. THANK YOU FOR THIS.
Tyler it is 828 in northern New York and I am astonished on how you touch my heart with every signal fire especially this one. I confess I have not listened to one in a while struggling to find peace in my sister's sudden death. My sister has always been far more timid and unadventurous than I so when she went on a cruise by herself it surprised everyone. First can I say I went on a cruise once and realized it is so far from who I am I could never do that again. Well, the story is she died suddenly by herself with no answers to any of us Holland America will not give us the medical records and the doctor would not sign the death certificate so we are in the process of an autopsy. I realize that it might of been her time and although she was very healthy anything could of happened. I am finding peace but what haunts me the most is the lack of empathy the cruise lines have shown and how big business as I have always known are heartless. Like you spoke about we all have or will suffer loss and I will not leave a legacy of bitterness but of love . I have never been one to reach out it seems I am better at listening to others but your words ,your honest raw words always help so very much.
Thank you sending love to anyone who is suffering.
❤️ I will continue my journey with love ❤️
Well. I can’t say I was expecting to ugly cry this morning, but ugly cry I did.
❤️
Ah, Tyler - what a timely piece. Thank you. I’m a couple of days away from the anniversary of my father’s death. It’s been a tough year and your words were a powerful reminder that tragedy is inevitable and that grief and coping with grief are ongoing. And, for the record, your podcast (sure, call it that!) shot to the top of my list this morning. Keep up the good work :)
Thank you Tyler for offering up the words I needed to find and the words I needed to hear. Death has affected our family tremendously in the past two years. Both my sister and sister-in-law are having difficult times coping. They rely on me to listen and offer hope. With our latest death, the sudden loss of my 25 year nephew to suicide, I have been struggling. Due to circumstances surrounding his death there was no funeral, no viewing, no memorial. I have never needed these things in the past. For the first time in my life I am struggling to find a way to say goodbye. I am struggling to hold myself together while I offer my family hope. I am struggling with the concept that he chose to die alone, he was that in pain and that he couldn’t reach out. This wasn’t just a painful day for him. He was in so much pain he planned it. The realization kills me. I took care of him as a child when my sister was on bed rest with his sisters. He lived with me while he tried on big city life. How could I miss this? So this morning your message was a gift. Thank you. I will not become lost in bitterness, but rather continue to offer up hope to my family who desperately needs it at this time. Continue to focus on love. If you have any suggestions for ways to say goodbye I would greatly appreciate any ideas you could pass along. There is just something there I cannot lay down. I could use the help.
To anyone who is struggling I send my sincerest love. You are not alone.
Today must be the day for grief - I just woke up from a dream (and I almost never remember dreams) - crying because I dreamed of my grama. I don't remember what happened but I haven't seen my grams since she passed almost 10 years ago. And I had an idea for a book I'm planning to writing - also about grief. I think it must be a February thing. February and November are always the grief months for me for no reason in particular.
Prior to listening to your Sunday Edition (which I look forward to every weekend), I was in a virtual support group for family members of people with substance use disorder. And the topic was Grief! And then to listen to your post. This is so beautiful, thank you. I love your analogy of getting those handcuffs off and running down the street, checking on every street corner to be sure of escape! : ) I don't know how our culture became so grief averse (although I have some suspicions), but people like you are bringing us back around to the truth of it. To really live and love means to lose sometimes, and it hurts, and only we can decide how to keep showing up for life, for ourselves, for our community. But the more "out" we are about this, the more we are helping others to find their way too. THANK YOU FOR THIS.
Incredible Ty. Thank you. ❤️