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Thank you for this one, Tyler. It is certainly difficult at times in this age of social media to take a step back and take in all that actually matters, and not compare the success of others to my own success.

This was a gentle reminder that I needed this morning! Hope your day is full of moments worth living in!

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What an incredible piece of writing and a beautiful message. Thank you.

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I picked a word of the year for 2024 and my word of the year is "satisfied". I'm on the hunt for what it means to be satisfied in my life. Not to settle or suffer but to know when (and what) is satisfying when it is. This Signal Fire is such good advice at an ideal time as I'm leaning in to finding satisfaction. Thank you for these gentle nudges.

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Your wisdom, words are a gift. and when I raise my hand? I am my own toughest criticizer, kind to many but myself. My faith tells me to do things mindfully. Even something mundane as brushing my hair. So...I need this step to take to give myself the kindness that I so easily give.

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Always thankful for your transparency and wisdom!

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"I've been learning 'bout letting go

How to do it without my claws

Scratching the surfaces …" ~ Angie McMahon, Letting Go

Practicing surrender. Letting go of outcomes that I am manifesting. This helps immensely. Thank you for the gentle reminder.

I have been accused of not being a good tourist because I rarely take photographs. How can I when I am in the moment and loving what is? No expectations is what I chose for this year, 2024. But, as Angie McMahon says, "...How to do it without my claws scratching the surface" … how, indeed.

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I think most of my life I have, to use your words, fallen victim to “some imaginary alternative version in some parallel perfect dimension”. As I see time with my sons still living at home slipping away and being on the cusp of retirement, I am trying to be more like Vonnegut’s Uncle Alex, savouring the everyday, even when it isn’t so sweet, and say, “If this isn’t nice, what is?” What sage advice you offer (one of your many nuggets): “Love what is.”

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Period. Full stop.

WOW. Not even sure what to say after that. I am sure guilty of the comparison trap. But I'm working so hard to break out of that. There is so much joy in the present if only we have the courage to accept it.

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Stunning 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 favorite take away that I cannot stop repeating … “we should at least mourn the joy we’ve sacrificed at the altar of wishing” Superb offering :) much needed, walk me off the ledge kinda vibe

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Thank you for this. Such a beautiful reminder to simply BE. Present. All we have is now.

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My word for 2024 has been “create”. I’m aiming to create more than (let’s be honest, at least in healthy proportion to) my level of consuming. Our world is so full of consumption so I want to balance it with creation.

It’s been a fun journey in this first month, I’ve cooked more than I ever had in my life, done a bit of painting, a little writing, lots of movement. And yet I, too, caught myself saying “Sure I’m creating more, but I’m still constantly on my phone so it’s clearly not working well enough.”

Thank you for this reminder that progress is progress and my growth, regardless of how big or small, is still growth. And I can enjoy my cooking and dancing and painting no matter how many hours I end up playing solitaire and watching animal reels on my phone

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