Thank you. We all will benefit from this shift, not just women. I don't think men realize how much it impacts them to view and treat women as they do. There are whole worlds of opportunity and experience sitting on the other side of equality.
Thank you. I have been mad/sad all week. To the point where I had to put down my phone for a few days to not read/hear more what that poor girl went through. I have literally cried every day this week. It’s so triggering too. Myself and pretty much all my friends have been in similar situations and the perpetuation of “you shouldn’t have put yourself in a bad place to let that happen”. NO! We should be able to trust our male friends that they’re going to do what they say they’re going to do and be honorable. But far too many times they don’t. They see a woman who has gotten a little too drunk and they take advantage. Or the Uber driver who you think has been background checked, but assaults your best friend on her way home from a concert. We need honorable men again. And unfortunately, our country is being led by the most dishonorable of all….
I’m sick to death of it. Thank you for being honorable.
I’m so grateful for the men who work with us to raise the men who meet this world as it is, who see the world as it can be (yes this is a Hadestown reference too haha)
There is hope here, and I have learned that hope is not naive but fierce, and hard-working, and brave
I recently shared dinner with a close friend who identifies deeply with her religion. She told me how a growing number of young people in Europe are exploring traditional faiths because modern materialism has left them feeling empty. She said, “They are looking for someone to give them rules with historical validation to live by.” While I don’t share her conclusion about the role of traditional worship, I cannot deny her underlying point: it is the “rules of life” we give our children that dictate the adults they become. People are memetic; we copy what we see, always seeking a better way.
That is why your public call to accountability for men is so worthy. I share the visceral reaction to when “men behave badly.” It isn’t limited to what happened at Cornell. Look at how voters routinely elect leaders who are documented abusers, and then we act surprised by the trickle-down impact on our children. The Cornell / Jane Doe case is just one symptom of a wider barbarism rooted in unexamined privilege.
When we excuse toxic entitlement as "just how guys are," we enable a broken system where decent men are made to feel like fools for having a conscience. I raised two boys who are now good men in their thirties. They’ve admitted to me how hard it is to maintain integrity when they see predators and cheaters continuously rewarded with power. I remind them of the empty promises of a shortcut, but they shouldn't have to fight this cultural rot alone. They have seen in our own family that money and privilege cannot protect your health or lifestyle. Life often asks us to do things that do not directly benefit us, for the benefit of others. That is more than okay—it is the exact experience required to feel truly human.
Change happens when we disrupt the micro-culture around us. We need to explicitly demonstrate through our own daily choices that privilege demands stewardship. That means using our influence to refuse to ignore the bad behavior of our peers, providing care and support to victims, and holding institutional enablers accountable.
Thank you for speaking up, much appreciated.
Thank you. We all will benefit from this shift, not just women. I don't think men realize how much it impacts them to view and treat women as they do. There are whole worlds of opportunity and experience sitting on the other side of equality.
Thank you. I have been mad/sad all week. To the point where I had to put down my phone for a few days to not read/hear more what that poor girl went through. I have literally cried every day this week. It’s so triggering too. Myself and pretty much all my friends have been in similar situations and the perpetuation of “you shouldn’t have put yourself in a bad place to let that happen”. NO! We should be able to trust our male friends that they’re going to do what they say they’re going to do and be honorable. But far too many times they don’t. They see a woman who has gotten a little too drunk and they take advantage. Or the Uber driver who you think has been background checked, but assaults your best friend on her way home from a concert. We need honorable men again. And unfortunately, our country is being led by the most dishonorable of all….
I’m sick to death of it. Thank you for being honorable.
Thank you.
I’m so grateful for the men who work with us to raise the men who meet this world as it is, who see the world as it can be (yes this is a Hadestown reference too haha)
There is hope here, and I have learned that hope is not naive but fierce, and hard-working, and brave
Thank you, Tyler. Truly, resoundingly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. ❤️
I recently shared dinner with a close friend who identifies deeply with her religion. She told me how a growing number of young people in Europe are exploring traditional faiths because modern materialism has left them feeling empty. She said, “They are looking for someone to give them rules with historical validation to live by.” While I don’t share her conclusion about the role of traditional worship, I cannot deny her underlying point: it is the “rules of life” we give our children that dictate the adults they become. People are memetic; we copy what we see, always seeking a better way.
That is why your public call to accountability for men is so worthy. I share the visceral reaction to when “men behave badly.” It isn’t limited to what happened at Cornell. Look at how voters routinely elect leaders who are documented abusers, and then we act surprised by the trickle-down impact on our children. The Cornell / Jane Doe case is just one symptom of a wider barbarism rooted in unexamined privilege.
When we excuse toxic entitlement as "just how guys are," we enable a broken system where decent men are made to feel like fools for having a conscience. I raised two boys who are now good men in their thirties. They’ve admitted to me how hard it is to maintain integrity when they see predators and cheaters continuously rewarded with power. I remind them of the empty promises of a shortcut, but they shouldn't have to fight this cultural rot alone. They have seen in our own family that money and privilege cannot protect your health or lifestyle. Life often asks us to do things that do not directly benefit us, for the benefit of others. That is more than okay—it is the exact experience required to feel truly human.
Change happens when we disrupt the micro-culture around us. We need to explicitly demonstrate through our own daily choices that privilege demands stewardship. That means using our influence to refuse to ignore the bad behavior of our peers, providing care and support to victims, and holding institutional enablers accountable.