It's rapidly approaching the time when you're gonna need to drop your own book of poetry, all from the comments you've left, and self publish it. :) As usual, beautiful stuff.
And that my friend, would likely take all the fun out of it… so not a likely path for me. After all, you are the muse right now that brings all this out of me! lol
Thank you for the reminder to chase and embrace openness! It's terrifying and rewarding and exactly the reminder I needed this week.
P.S. I have the "self-blindness" too, I told my therapist about it and they said they hadn't heard of such an extreme presentation before. It's nice to know others experience it too.
Strangely, I think the scariness of it is the whole reason it IS rewarding. I love things like that. And WOAH, it's so so so rare to meet a fellow self-blinder!
Yup you definitely grew up without a filter of sorts.... often endearing and never malicious... not always at the best time, but most often with the best intentions 🥰
I relate to a lot of what you said; I prefer to be vulnerable because it is authentic and the only way to make genuine connections with other souls, and isn't that the whole reason we are all here?
A difference between us is that I would say I am the window; I can and do close, in fact I am quite introverted and lots of interaction with people I do not know, can feel so so exhausting. So I usually keep to myself, or I will close the window when I know I need a boundary, a bit of separation -- not so solid as a door but enough to create space between myself and other(s).
BUT if I am going to have an interaction, whether it is with someone on the street or behind the till or an acquaintance or someone from my inner circle, I will show you my genuine self. Some people still only get to see it through the glass of the window, but what they see is still true, still me. And those that I want to connect with, truly, again even if it is a stranger for just a moment or if it is someone very dear to me, I open right up, for better or for worse.
I'm a highly sensitive person, I feel things so deeply, I feel other people's emotions and energy as well as my own, I pick up peace or pressure or anything in between, from the environment I am in.... I don't have time for fake shit. Give me the real stuff -- and again I am okay with boundaries and distance because I think you can still be genuine without letting someone all the way in, and then slowly giving them more and more access if they prove to be someone you'd like to trust more. But do not come at me with the posturing and one-upping and pretending; I sense it and I will find it more funny or off-putting (depending on the context and person) than impressive.
I think people say vulnerability is weak or it is intimidating because it is something they are personally afraid of, not because vulnerability itself is a bad thing. I believe it to be the BEST thing, and I also believe it is an ingredient in the salve that will heal our currently effed up world, if ever a salve like that exists, if it really isn't too late. We have to be vulnerable, we have to be okay to be imperfect and soft and unsure and to ask for help. We have to risk letting people in and having it maybe not go the way we had hoped, and we have to have the courage to try that over and over again. Otherwise, how do we get through this storm?
"because it is authentic and the only way to make genuine connections with other souls" What a succinct and PERFECT way of saying what I was trying to say. I always just wonder "What's the point of surface bullshit" and I get in trouble for it a lot. As for you being a window, thank you, just thank you, for keeping it open for all of us. Means the whole world, to all of us. Truly.
So stunningly put Julie. THANK you for this insight. Just being, what a thing. Just being.
Tyler, your work is so inspiring. It’s not only the many ways you express and reveal yourself to us, but the insight we gain from it all…
Openness to Curious to Incredible
Is openness a blank canvas?
An unlimited potential,
Yet, unpredictable at first?
And not to be defined at all.
Openness, by rule, is a noun
not unlimited, like adverbs
Or adorning, like adjectives
But to do, one first must be…
Open doors are wanting more
Never changing, always empty
unless a shadow comes along
To tread across its threshold
While not in the act itself
Free will unchains the mind
And permits the change of state
Yes, openness allows all
To allow a spark in life
Is to unleash or not to restrict
and “curious” is the fuel
To move us beyond the door
Curious is to nature
What eyes are to vision
The latter must must look to see
The former must see to live
If we’re blessed to be open
Then curious is the next step
Yet one short of incredible!
Oh, the missteps of this life!
So, if you are that open door
Be prepared what thresholds bring
For incredible lives come from
Being curious of openings.
It's rapidly approaching the time when you're gonna need to drop your own book of poetry, all from the comments you've left, and self publish it. :) As usual, beautiful stuff.
And that my friend, would likely take all the fun out of it… so not a likely path for me. After all, you are the muse right now that brings all this out of me! lol
Then I will sleep easy knowing that you know, that it would be a treasured thing.
Thank you for the reminder to chase and embrace openness! It's terrifying and rewarding and exactly the reminder I needed this week.
P.S. I have the "self-blindness" too, I told my therapist about it and they said they hadn't heard of such an extreme presentation before. It's nice to know others experience it too.
Strangely, I think the scariness of it is the whole reason it IS rewarding. I love things like that. And WOAH, it's so so so rare to meet a fellow self-blinder!
Yup you definitely grew up without a filter of sorts.... often endearing and never malicious... not always at the best time, but most often with the best intentions 🥰
:) Most often, yes :)
I relate to a lot of what you said; I prefer to be vulnerable because it is authentic and the only way to make genuine connections with other souls, and isn't that the whole reason we are all here?
A difference between us is that I would say I am the window; I can and do close, in fact I am quite introverted and lots of interaction with people I do not know, can feel so so exhausting. So I usually keep to myself, or I will close the window when I know I need a boundary, a bit of separation -- not so solid as a door but enough to create space between myself and other(s).
BUT if I am going to have an interaction, whether it is with someone on the street or behind the till or an acquaintance or someone from my inner circle, I will show you my genuine self. Some people still only get to see it through the glass of the window, but what they see is still true, still me. And those that I want to connect with, truly, again even if it is a stranger for just a moment or if it is someone very dear to me, I open right up, for better or for worse.
I'm a highly sensitive person, I feel things so deeply, I feel other people's emotions and energy as well as my own, I pick up peace or pressure or anything in between, from the environment I am in.... I don't have time for fake shit. Give me the real stuff -- and again I am okay with boundaries and distance because I think you can still be genuine without letting someone all the way in, and then slowly giving them more and more access if they prove to be someone you'd like to trust more. But do not come at me with the posturing and one-upping and pretending; I sense it and I will find it more funny or off-putting (depending on the context and person) than impressive.
I think people say vulnerability is weak or it is intimidating because it is something they are personally afraid of, not because vulnerability itself is a bad thing. I believe it to be the BEST thing, and I also believe it is an ingredient in the salve that will heal our currently effed up world, if ever a salve like that exists, if it really isn't too late. We have to be vulnerable, we have to be okay to be imperfect and soft and unsure and to ask for help. We have to risk letting people in and having it maybe not go the way we had hoped, and we have to have the courage to try that over and over again. Otherwise, how do we get through this storm?
"because it is authentic and the only way to make genuine connections with other souls" What a succinct and PERFECT way of saying what I was trying to say. I always just wonder "What's the point of surface bullshit" and I get in trouble for it a lot. As for you being a window, thank you, just thank you, for keeping it open for all of us. Means the whole world, to all of us. Truly.
So beautiful! Thank-you so much for sharing your view of the world.