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I love this! I love the gravitational force that brings souls meant for each other, back together...despite years, distance, and the inevitabilities of life. This gives me hope...hope for the reunion with my own beloved, who I know will be back, as I feel him with me, and yet we have also endured years of separation.

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Sometimes you meet them and just know that they are the safe place for your soul. That you are meant to have and hold each other. Sometimes you know that although things didn’t work out this time, they will work out when they are meant to. We just have to learn to be patient and trust. ❤️ I needed to hear this today. Cheers 🍻 to you two!

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What a lovely start to my Sunday, enjoying your love story and that radiant first photo of your beautiful wife. The moment I first saw my husband I surprised myself by whispering “there you are” as he walked toward me. We also reunited after knowing each other when we were young teens. That night 20 years later when we were together again we both felt like we were trembling with electricity, feeling the snapping of whatever magic love is made of coursing between us. For both of us we instantly knew we had found our way back home. Just like you I have never taken stopped marvelling at the truth that the people who are meant for us always find their way.

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This was such a sweet listen to start the day! It brought visions of a Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks love story from the 90s to my mind! Joe Vs the Volcano meets Harry Meets Sally vibes!! It made me smile as I puttered around and when it was over my mind wandered over to daydreaming of a whimsical crush! And since then I can’t get that U2 song, The Sweetest Thing, out of my head! So well done on the evoking of happy thoughts!! I appreciate you!

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This made me smile so much this morning.

The love you share is stupendous!

I would say that sometimes

“you meet them and you know”…

that you should turn and run like the building you are standing near is on fire and full of toxic chemicals that will destroy you if you stay within the blast zone.

(maybe a personal experience, maybe not 😉)

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Nov 12·edited Nov 12

Yes!! I've been waiting years to hear this full story!! Thank you for sharing Tyler!! Other than my own, yours and Sarah's is one of my very favorite romances. :) I am lucky enough to have a photo of the first time I met my husband and that is my favorite thing ever and we love the silly story.

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What a beautiful testimony to your love for each other. Thank you!

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I am absolutely delighted by these words. You trusted your knowing and have stayed with that gravity for 14 years. Yours is a tale of true love and true trust. You trust each other to surrender to the weight knowing that it envelops you and keeps you protected.

Thank you for sharing.

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I LOVED reading this. 🥹🫶 Reminds me of the Taylor Swift lyric, ‘Isn’t it just so pretty to think, all along there was some invisible string, tying you to me.’

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My goodness my love. What a gift this wild and beautiful life has been. I knew the moment I looked into your eyes you’d be in my life forever I just didn’t know how then. I’m so incredibly grateful for the universe and its many nudges. And for your love and never ending belief that we’d find a way. 💚

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Nice piece Tyler! 😁 Glad it all worked out in the end! Yay!

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Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️

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With both of the men in my life, one my husband and the other my lover/partner, it was a knowing, love, as soon as I met them.

With my husband the effect was almost immediate. By the time I left the party I had butterflies in my stomach. When he got up to leave, before I did, I went into the kitchen of my friend to get my coat., I stood there perplexed as the feeling was that he was leaving and it was time for me to go with him.

The rest of the days followed quickly. This was February. By August we had moved in together … 3 years later we were married because I wanted a child and he felt it was important to have that union while rising a child.

Years upon years. 41, to be exact. We have had our trials. He came out to me as a gay asexual … who just happened to love me. Go figure. We decided to remain married [divorce was too expensive, and he was, after all my best friend.] It was a good decision.

15 years ago I met the man who would be my lover and partner. We began chatting on LiveJournal and struck up an immediate friendship. He shared his photography with me [nudes he and taken and various body parts. He called it, "my body in time". I shared, as I do … everything.

After knowing each other this way for many months, I asked if we could meet and he could show us London while we were on a trip to Edinburgh and then to visit family on the coast. He said ,of course [as he does]. I was already having troubles in my marriage and on our first meeting I spilled my guts while he patiently and compassionately listened. Oh, by the way … I knew there was something up in my heart the moment I saw him come off the train. But I shook it off. It was obvious, though, by the end of the day that we were going to be lifelong friends, not lovers. I was married, after all … and then, the distance.

Coincidentally, this is also about the time my husband came out [3 months later]. My friend was instrumental in talking me out of divorce. Not to act too rashly. All the time after we had already formed a union and he wanted desperately to be with me. It was one day at a time.

Somehow, it has all worked out and we are a different sort of family. [My father and step mother were so happy that I was finding this love.] He lives in England still while I am In NJ. My family has accepted him [after a short time. It takes some getting used to.] and our relationship. My husband has often said he wished for me that Patrick lived closer. I love them both to varying degrees [what felt like a betrayal from my husband has left a deep scar. I mean, his family knew when we were getting married and contemplated telling me on our wedding day!]

But that is all water under the bridge. And yes, it took some time, but I am truly loved and grateful for how things have turned out. Peaceful and loving. >smile<

Your story is a beautiful one of building and getting to know one another. A life lasting bond that not all are lucky [?] enough to find. I'm very happy for you both.

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I love both the moment of recognition that someone or something will be in my life for a long time (this has happened with both people and places) AND walking through life willing to be surprised by who stays, who pops up again later, and who is fleeting. There is always some level of mystery about how someone may end up fitting in my life later, which is kind of wonderful.

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Gosh, this is a good one. Thanks to both you and Sarah for sharing this part of your story.

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I needed to read this today. Your love story has always been so inspiring. Thank you for sharing these details. I can only imagine what it must have felt like to long for someone and have to wait so long to see where you would end up. I often find myself impatient, struggling with uncertainty, longing for things I can't put into words. I need to be reminded that love...the real, deep, true kind...takes time. We can't control it, we can't rush it. All we can do is surrender to the unfolding and be open enough to let it transform us.

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